Today's topic will begin to cover Middle School Relationships (will cover relationships at different ages as well later). There will be many more posts covering this topic and the different aspects of it, so here's my 2 cents, well maybe more like 74 cents since I could ramble about this stuff all day:
This post is mostly for the ladies or at least the perspective of it, as it seems that it's the girls especially that seek "relationships" from an early age. Today we grow up in a society that preaches the "Cinderella Story" or find "Mr. Prince Charming" to everybody. From a young age it seems to me at least that young girls especially are targeted by such fairy tales. Everybody seeks human affection and the feeling of being loved, but with such stories being instilled so early and the fact that girls mature earlier than boys do-- it's the inevitable that girls are going to be seeking relationships sooner and more often. Many relationships become traps for young women as well (this will have it's own post at some point).
I strongly believe that there is absolutely no point to being in a relationship in middle school. What do you even do? You can't drive to see each other or anything, the couple "dates" I went on in middle school were awkward because parents (modern day parenting is going to be a major topic at some point) were always around. And the rumors and drama at school and even outside school just weren't worth the headache. Most relationships I see and hear about only last a couple weeks if not only a couple days. Then people move onto somebody else and then often times rebound back to their ex only to break up with them again for some idiotic reason. The drama and rumors that circulate are also just absolutely absurd and cruel. Save yourself from the hurricane that is middle school dating! It's pointless!
Also, I bet hardly anybody this age would be able to tell me truly what a good/healthy relationship requires, especially the guys. No offense boys, but most young males only want one thing from their lady friends and only care about themselves... And unfortunately the desperation for attention from the girls can make this very easy for them to attain. There are many, many negative repercussions to these actions that I will get into later on. Another thing I hear a lot is young people saying, "I love you" to each other all the time. This annoys me as I can assure, young teens do not know the meaning of those 3 words and use them too loosely. Do you kids not realize your school is just a pond in a giant ocean filled with approximately 7 billion other people? You should never force relationships or be in a hurry to find one, the best things actually come to those who wait and who aren't necessarily looking all the time. Too many relationships are forced for whatever reason, no wonder the divorce rate in the U.S. is so high.
Point here is, just live your lives right now. Save yourselves from all this asinine drama provided by ignorance and immaturity and just have fun growing up. Young people want to grow up too fast nowadays and trust me, I was the same way, but now looking back I would do almost anything to relive some of my younger years. Treasure your youth as it only makes up about 1/3 of an average person's entire life. Don't soil it.
"How do I teech deese keeeeds?!"
I will teech youu keeeeds, like Mr. Cartmanez!
Hey Alex. This is Wes, and I'd have to say I agree with a strong part of this but not all of it entirely. Yes people spread "I love you" like it's some kind of addicting drug, but some people in Middle School date for months, or years eventually, feel something entirely different then a normal crush. By then most don't believe the rumors they hear, as they trust their girlfriend/boyfriend at that time. But people who say it within a couple days...yeah that's just BS there. But all I'm saying is yes some of us may not know what love is, but eventually some of, the affection becomes great, and that's the main thing I say about it. But besides that, great topic! Keep em coming, Mr. Cartmanez!
ReplyDeleteMy main point here is that middle school and high school are times of hormonal rage. So, people get into things without knowing what they are doing at all. Most kids are just infatuated (obsessed) with one another for whatever reason, which is totally different than love or at least true affection.
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